Approval Does Not Equal Love: Remembering We are Mirrors

What good does it do to disapprove of someone’s wrongdoing? How does the offender gain anything – knowledge, understanding, etc. – from it? How does society benefit from our disapproval of wrongdoing? How humanity?When we disapprove of someone for a wrongdoing we are effectively setting ourselves apart from this person, disassociating ourselves from him and everything he seems to represent, ie. infidelity, dishonesty, criminality, evil, anger, etc. The consequence of setting ourselves apart from one another is, well, only that we’ve set ourselves apart from one another. It makes us less whole, less unified, and therefore, less human.
Approval is not love because love is not convenient. Convenience-in-love is borne out of ego. To choose to only love the ‘do-gooder’ over the ‘wrong-doer’ serves only ourselves. It is more convenient for us to approve of the ‘do-gooder’ because it boosts our image and gives us a sense of relief that we’re not counted among the ‘wrong-doers’. The realm of Approval (and Disapproval) is a precarious one, because contingent to Approval are conditions, terms for the relationship. And you never know where these conditions come from. Approval doesn't encourage bad behaviour. Nor does disapproval discourage it. It only classifies us (as ‘good’) and does nothing for the other.
Compassion is more than a feeling, it serves a function. This ability to feel what another feels – the torment, the isolation, the fear, the loneliness, the despondence – reminds us of our own humanity, with all its imperfections and its frailties. In this way, they help us to know ourselves more, to remember our humanity. We are equipped with Imagination for this reason among many. It’s easy to say that we aren’t able to know what’s running through a person’s mind when they do something wrong. If we were able to know the mind of evil then there must be something wrong with us, right? We might reveal ourselves to be less-than-good, right? Fear is fear. Sorrow is sorrow. Loneliness is loneliness. Doubt is doubt. The sources, the causes and the effects may vary with every situation, but the pure feelings themselves are universal.

Compassion enables us to see ourselves in them. Meanwhile, it enables them to see themselves in us, thus reminding them of 'the good' and their humanity as well, therefore. Herein lies the hope for redemption.
The more we are able to love them, the more we are able to love ourselves. The more we are able to love ourselves the more we are able to love others. The converse of this is also true: Disapproval is the absence of compassion and therefore love. The more we withhold love from others the more we withhold it from ourselves. This is because love is an energy that needs to circulate in order to sustain itself (in this world). This allows us to love them more, and loving them more enables us to love ourselves more too.